Thursday, February 28, 2008

Its Just Hair!

A few days ago I had a hair appointment for highlights and a cut. Two different people accomplish that (same Salon). I’m a loyal customer and I make my appointments ten weeks in advance. The salon is not close to my house so I schedule my day around this appointment. While sitting with my son watching “Air Buddies” the phone rang and I couldn’t hear the voice but thought I would pick the message up later. Turns out it was the Salon confirming my appointment, and oh, letting me know that the person who has been cutting my hair for fifteen years is on vacation. “Call us when you get this message”. With my appointment being the next day I called right away, “Sorry, the Salon is closed”. Closed????!!!!!. Don’t they know I’m a very busy person?? I’m a long standing client!!! Who’s going to cut my hair??? They need to take customer service lessons from Nordstrom!! Why didn't they call me two weeks ago?? Why does Will need to take a vacation now?? As my mind is going down a very self serving, self absorbed road, I’m starting to wonder what on earth I’m going to do! (Debbie, its just hair). I had to put my hair crisis on hold when the two older ones came home from school so I could get homework done, dinner made, etc. Every so often I would come back to it, “I really need to let them know this is unacceptable”, (Debbie, its just hair). Then I would start dialoguing with the Lord “I know this is just hair, but it isn’t right what they did. Who’s going to cut my hair? What if they cut it all wrong? "(But Debbie you wear your hair up in a pony tail most of the time). “Lord, forgive me this is so ridiculous, help me not to worry about this, where’s that verse where you tell us not to worry because of the sparrows?” “But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows” Luke 12:7. Wow, that’s amazing that God cares so much about and for us that He knows and cares about the number of hairs. I hope that means He is o.k. with us caring about who cuts our hair!

The way this all went down was not right but I knew I had to make a choice how I was going to handle this the next day, and respond. The cute adorable receptionist saw me walk in and knew there could be a serious confrontation. I let her know that although I was disappointed the way this was handled I knew no one set out to make this mistake, and I wasn’t taking it personally (she looked extremely relieved). I graciously accepted the person they had chosen to cut my hair (Lord help them to do a good job!!). My hair is still in a pony tail and it’s just fine.

When we face circumstances that are difficult and unjust I believe it is important to remember we are living for the sake of the Kingdom. God used me that day to show His grace through the power of His Spirit. After all It’s Just Hair!!! “Let your gentleness be known to all men. The Lord is at hand”. Phil 4:5

Blessings and Sweet Dreams!!

Saturday, February 23, 2008

The Never Ending Friday

School cancelled due to snow!!! Tennis cancelled due to snow (my outlet)!!! Husband gone for two days (not sure when he’s coming home)!!

I knew yesterday school would be cancelled which of course sounded fun and exciting since it is the first one for us this year. The kids and I stayed up late watching The Wizard of Oz. Emeline was asked to be a Munchkin in a high school production and didn’t know what a Munchkin was!! This morning I woke up and the kids were up with me. I like to pray and read the Bible first thing in the morning. Well, that didn’t happen. The demands of the day were in full swing. The thirty minute TV limit was over by 8:30 AM (ugh!!). As I was still in my pajamas I was trying to figure out just what I was going to do with these very energetic children all day long!! It took two hours to just get breakfast and the kitchen half way cleaned up. I quickly realized there were three things that were going to get me through the day 1). Have my devotions, 2) Have a game plan for the kids, 3) Provide myself with lots of treats along the way! My morning treat was an extra cup of coffee (I know, pathetic but it was too early to hit the chocolate). As I was making the chocolate chip pancakes I did pop several of those chips in my mouth!! I finally sat down and tried to pray and read with all the commotion going on around me. I was interrupted numerous times, I’m sure it was crystal clear, and I begged God for an extra dose of patience as the day was unfolding. Then I sat down with each of my children and explained to them what was expected. I imposed behavior goals in increments and rewards along the way. Then the door bell rang and I was suddenly painfully aware of how horrible I must have looked. My hair hadn’t been washed in a few days and well, I just looked terrible. It was Nick the snow shovel person my husband hired to come shovel my snow. I didn’t know we had somebody like that and quite frankly it had not crossed my mind that I was in need of such a person!!

Besides the usual battles that one encounters with boys the day was going pretty well. Posters were being created, model vehicles were being built (engine and all), and balls were flying in the playroom. We couldn’t let the day go by without going sledding, so we called a few friends and went to our favorite spot well equipped with the snow gliders, turbo sliders, snow boards, etc. Of course I was also dressed for sledding myself. It was a blast. The snow had a little bit of rain on it so it was a fast sled ride. Now as a mom you can’t just sit at the top of a hill and push off, you won’t go very far. You really need to take a running jump and get some air!! Air I got as I went flying down the hill feeling like I was a kid again (kids have a way of doing that to you!!). After we had several races so everyone won at least once and built snowmen we came home for hot chocolate. It was time for a treat for me too so I squirted several dollops of whipped cream into my mouth (I know appalling!!). I was planning to keep all the kids (and company) for spaghetti and meatballs but my mom called and reminded me we had tickets to see The Sound of Music at school. With my house trashed from the day we said goodbye to our friends and went to meet “Mom Mom” and “Pop Pop” at Panera Bread. Now by this time I was looking forward to some adult interaction and relief. I had talked, disciplined, and refereed three to five children for the entire day and was looking forward to a reprieve. I got to the restaurant and my parents were not there. They are not usually the late ones, it’s always me. I started to order dinner for everyone. I was interrupted so many times during trying to place my order by fights breaking out, bottles being clanked, and special orders on sandwiches I started just loosing it. I had to apologize three times to the cashier for being such a terrible mother. I had reached my limit and my night was not over. As I sat eating dinner I watched people come and go. They all looked like they had a calm life, and I was the only one feeling out of control. I was relieved to see a woman have to take her child out because she had a melt down. Whew, I thought that only happened to my kids!! What was I thinking to take my boys to a show? Emeline loves it but not the boys!! They had their PSP to use only as we were waiting for the show to start. Somewhere along the way Sam did not understand that and was devastated to hear he needed to sit and watch the show!! “What if I don’t like the show?” “You’ll act like you do!!” was my reply. Meanwhile my parents never showed up, come to find out we were at different Panera Breads!! I decided it was time for another treat for my self. This time it was a big chocolate chip cookie.

Off to the show. We met my parents and separated all my children between us for maximum coverage. The show was three hours long. I loved it, the boys did not!! Every time the audience clapped my five year old asked really loud “Is it over now?” Because Sam has ADHD he has developed some ticks. He twirls his hair and clears his throat. Zachary just kept jumping all over the place. I felt bad for the people sitting behind us but they were laughing hysterically at the boys!! My favorite part of the show is when the Reverend Mother sings Climb Every Mountain. I always want to belt that song out when I hear it!! Follow Every Rainbow….. Till You Find Your Dream!! Ah, it takes me back!!

Now the children are asleep. I have peace and quiet, thank you Jesus we made it!!!

Blessings,

Debbie

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

Snow Expert gets stuck in the Snow!!

“The mountains will bring peace to the people, And the little hills, by righteousness”. Psalm 72:3. It was an “utterly” chaotic morning as we were trying to move the troops out of town for a ski weekend up the mountains at one of our favorite summer vacation places, Camp-of-the-Woods. The camp closes down in the winter leaving only the main lodge open. With a six hour ride ahead of us I was hoping to leave early in the morning to get an afternoon of fun in the snow. It was apparent as the morning went on that we were not going to make it to camp by noon. I happily lowered my expectation of the departure anticipating now to get there by 3:00 to get an hour or two in of fun until dinner time. After we finally departed and got our coffee for the ride I had refereed several arguments with the kids and campaigned for myself with my husband as to why on earth we needed all the bags for three nights away!! I was now only hopeful that we would make it by dinner time and I was putting my foot down on that one!!

As we pulled into camp, we registered and received a long list of fun activities to insure an exciting weekend for all!! It was great to be back to our treasured Christian family camp!! I was driving us around to the rooms and my husband said “Let’s take a ride through camp and see what it looks like in the snow (there was at least 2 feet of snow)”. All I wanted to do was get into the rooms, unpack and go to dinner!! Not wanting to be a party pooper, I threw my SUV into four wheel drive and started through camp, it was like a snow ghost town. We were making fresh new tracks in the snow, it was rather exciting. As I was coming through the center of camp the snow seemed deeper but I kept going as Steve was nodding me on. Soon the car stopped as it sunk down into the snow. Inside the car was utter chaos “How could this happen?”, “We need to be rescued!”, “Can we get out of the car?”, “I have to go to the bathroom”, “We’re going to miss dinner!”, “Keep the doors closed”, “I hope we don’t ruin the path for the horse driven sleigh rides!” The chatter grew but my husband had the look of confidence, after all he owns and runs a Snow Management Company. This is right up his alley. The snow was too deep for us to get out of the car but Steve needed to take over the wheel to get us out! The chatter broke into bursts of laughter and frustration as six people gave their opinion on how to get the car out of the snow. Finally we had to revert to calling someone from the lodge to rescue us. It was a humbling act for my husband as a truck came, a man jumped out and said “Sir, this is not a plowed road!” As all the commotion was going on inside the car I looked out over the camp, through the trees and onto the lake. The sun was setting and it reminded me of one of my favorite verse “The Mountains will bring peace to the people……” I was forced to block out all the chaos inside the car for a moment and enjoy the peace on the outside through God’s creation.

So often I get caught up in the busyness of life, I don’t take enough time to look around me at all the blessings God has for me. I get caught up in the chaos of the everyday life. Sometime we’re forced whether we like it or not to take a moment and reflect on God’s peace and tranquility He has for us. The next day there was a big sign “NO VEHICLES BEYOND THIS POINT!!” As for the rest of the weekend, it was better then “Utterly O.K”.

Have a peaceful day J
Debbie

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Whose Crown is it anyway?

“An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones”. Proverbs 12:4

Well that’s one big ouch!! What does that mean anyway?? I like to try and read a chapter a day in Proverbs to coincide with the day of the month. A few days ago I came across this verse. When I read scripture like this it makes me shrivel up inside. I’m not sure why it is there or if I even want to know what it means!!

Being married to Steve for ten years certainly has had its ups and downs. He says “Black” and I say “White”. He says “Go”, I say “Stop.” But rottenness to his bones? That sounds down right offensive!! Sometimes scripture doesn’t sit well with what our society tells us we should feel or how we should act. God doesn’t ask us to understand Him, He just asks us to believe Him. I grew up thinking the Christian world was perfect. I knew I did not measure up to that standard so I searched for alternatives in my life. Now that I have come to realize and believe that God’s word is true, when I come up against these more challenging verses I ask God to help me understand how I can please Him and become more like Him in my life. Steve and I could not be more opposite when it comes to our likes and dislikes. Our upbringing has been very different as well as our thoughts on how we should raise children. Several years ago I learned to see the very best in Steve. Giving him the benefit of the doubt was key in our growth to become a solid unit. I no longer looked at him as the enemy (well sometimes), but someone who loves me and wants God’s best for my life.

Love is an emotion that can come and go like the wind. I thank God that Steve and I (ten years ago) made a commitment to God first. That is what has kept us going. “Love suffers long and is kind; Love does not envy; Love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7.

I still don’t feel like the “crown” of Steve, and I don’t know that I ever will, but my desire is to keep my eyes on Jesus and follow Him all the days of my life. Who knows, maybe somday (with God's help) I'll be that crown of Steve they're taking about!!

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

Blessings,

Debbie

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Seizing the moment

As I sat on my son Sam’s bed last night, it was later then “going to bed time” and all I wanted to do was finish up getting everyone ready for the next school day. Steve was working late so the night seemed, at this point, like it had gone on for an eternity. After being with Sam I had two more children to tuck in and settle down. At best I was looking at another thirty minutes until the house was QUIET (remember I’m a quiet – loving person). I asked Sam what his prayer requests were (hoping he did not have a lot), and then came the questions, “Mommy, could you pray that I will go to heaven?” “And could you tell me about the time you think you saw an angel?”

My son Sam has ADHD. His body and mind are in constant motion. But, tonight was different. He was engaged and sitting still. (Well, as still as Sam sits.) He was truly concerned. Wanting to rush from Sam to my other waiting children (one of them was screaming for me at this point), I wanted to say “Of course you’re going to heaven! We’ll talk about the angel tomorrow, now what are your prayers requests?” But instead, I stopped looking at the time and forgot about how I couldn’t wait to get in bed myself, and I engaged in a very rare moment with my son. Sam confessed he told God he didn’t believe in him anymore and wasn’t sure what that meant for him. He feared he was now going to hell. Again, I started thinking (as my younger one is still screaming for me) “Do we really need to be talking about this so late???” God spoke to my heart “Be still Debbie, this is important”. Sam asked if I knew a part in the Bible that could help him know for sure. Not being a Bible scholar, I searched my memory and came up with a familiar verse. I told him “For God so loved the world...” Sam finished, “That He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes on Him, shall not perish but have everlasting life!” Sam had a big smile on his face “Yes! I know that one!”. I explained to Sam that once we believe Jesus and have Him in our hearts we don’t have to worry about not going to heaven. I explained to him that if he decided to tell me he didn’t want me to be his mommy anymore that doesn’t mean I’m not his mommy. I’ll always be his mom and Jesus will always be His heavenly Father.

Seizing the moment is important with our children and relationships. I’m sure there are many times I don’t seize the moment or take the window of opportunity. “Apply your heart to instruction, and your ears to words of knowledge.” Proverbs 23.12. To gain knowledge we must be willing to listen. Of course I’d rather be listening, gaining knowledge, and seizing in the morning because I’m an “A.M.” kind of gal. But to learn about our children or spouse we must listen and take that time when it comes (ready or not!).

Sam and I prayed and asked Jesus to assure his heart that he will be going to heaven someday. I then went to Emeline and Zachary’s rooms where I listened to singing, sang along, reviewed a play, read a book, and prayed with each of them. Time, in my opinion, well spent.

Blessings,

Debbie

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

God's Grace is Sufficient

Wanting to become a blogger for me has been a challenge to begin. My two concerns were, "What do I say?" and "Where do I find a decent picture of myself?" Moms are always the ones taking the pictures. Everyone wants to look good on their first blog, right? My blog will mostly be about my life as a woman married to an ADHD man and as a mom raising an ADD daughter (Emeline 8), an ADHD son (Sam 7) and a non ADD son so far (Zachary 5). I’m praying that as I share some of the challenges and successes that it will encourage other moms...and that it will help me too!

My life is challenging on a daily basis. There are many days I laugh hysterically and many days when I cry. I have been exposed to many resources to help my family and I believe God is leading me to reach out and share my life with other moms out there looking for a little encouragement along the way. I’ve often thought it would be great to know others who share my similar life circumstances. One thing I must say up front is that I choose to live life looking for the good in everything, that goes for both relationships and circumstances. The only person that can help me do this is God and lots of prayer. He never ceases to amaze me that He truly does guide and direct us if we ask Him.

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose” Romans 8:28

Sweet Blessings,
Debbie